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Welcome to Relationship Counselling Online

Kate Heavey - BACP Accredited Psychotherapist and Counsellor. Qualified in Individual, Couple, Marriage and Two's Counselling. Specialties - Relationships, Alcohol Addiction, Loss / Bereavement and Single-Session Therapy. Online Zoom, Skype and Telephone Therapy in the UK + Worldwide.

Individual counselling and psychotherapy online via Zoom, Skype and the phone. Helping you build a relationship with yourself where you have self-trust, self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth.

Counselling and psychotherapy really can change HOW YOU LIVE and help you interact with yourself, and your life, in a more beneficial way for you.

Would you like a life where you get out of bed infused and energised as opposed to feeling dread and despair?

If so, you are not alone as statistics today show that more adults then not will reach out to counselling for support. We are human and finding ways to cope with our trials and tribulations, rather than letting them dictate/overwhelm, means freedom.

We all have so much potential and I would love the opportunity for you to contact me and for us to work together to get you the life you really want.

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Why you are here

Relationship symptoms and issues are the unpleasant feelings you experience from being IN relationship with yourself and others. You will have learnt ways to navigate your feelings along your life and you will have coping strategies that have got you this far. Yet, the reason you are here, is that these strategies are no longer working for you. A few issues/symptoms-

  • relationship problems (trust, resentment, jealousy, rejection, suspicion, rage, loss, etc.)
  • anxiety
  • low self-esteem, low self-confidence, low self-worth, etc.
  • low moods
  • feeling stressed / challenged
  • control issues
  • communication problems
  • family, friend or work issues
  • challenges accepting others, i.e. siblings, parents, step(s)
  • feeling taken advantage of
  • the impact of trauma / loss (historical or current)
  • feelings of withdrawal or avoidance
  • worry your partner has lost interest
  • unable to regulate feelings
  • contemplating breaking up with your partner
  • feeling your needs are not being met
  • sense of hopelessness / powerlessness
  • loss of direction or feel you are at a crossroads
  • feeling unheard or uneasy within
  • fear of saying the wrong thing
  • feeling overwhelmed / stressed with life
  • internal fears such as not feeling enough or fear of not being liked
  • grief feelings linked to a recent life event, i.e. separation, divorce, bereaved
  • experiencing physical, emotional or domestic abuse
  • feeling low / depressed and have lost interest in yourself and/or others
  • addiction issues, i.e. alcohol, food
  • feeling over-responsible getting you down
  • ageing issues / menopause
  • feeling unattractive
  • perfectionism getting in the way
  • ‘keeping up with Jones’ syndrome
  • childhood issues
  • attachment wounds
  • suicidal thoughts
  • loss of purpose, i.e. retirement, redundancy, change of role
  • feeling isolated or lonely
  • negative patterns playing out
  • bottling emotions up, i.e. anger, rage, shame, dissatisfaction
  • a loud self-critic voice stopping you from being self-accepting
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Understanding and Self-Compassion

The reason you are seeking therapy is due to something not quite working in how you relate within and a big contributor can be how you have learnt to communicate and trust others.

Through being in relationship with others, feelings and thoughts are experienced and your mind then creates an internal dialogue; a story it tells itself. Then, depending on your life experience, comes the healthiness of your next step…….

  1. Have you learnt it is ok to express your feelings and /or thoughts in a communicative way?
  2. Have you learnt to completely avoid and deny your feelings or thoughts?
  3. Have you learnt to grab the attention of another person (or object) to help you feel better?

It may not surprise you that number 1 is the healthiest way. Yet, what may surprise you is approximately 45% of humans do not do that! 45% use options 2 and 3 using learnt behaviours and defense mechanisms which result in internal distress, unhappiness, unfulfillment, stress and discontentment. What the world then sees is behaviours such as addiction (alcohol and eating disorders), trust issues, perfectionism, loss of self-esteem, lack of confidence, neediness, avoidance, unpleasant feelings (anger, resentment, anxiety, depressive mood, etc.) which all contribute to life struggles.

Yet these are all only symptoms created by an underlying cause of how you feel, and connect, with yourself. This then impacts on the quality of your life and how you feel about yourself and others.

The underlying cause is HOW you feel about yourself and the messages you give yourself, i.e. I am not worthy of more; I am bad; I deserve this; I will never be happy; I will be rejected if I am me; I am not enough; I need to be punished; life isn't fair; I need to appease, etc. These are all learnt behaviours / adaptations used to stay in relationship at any cost to you to avoid rejection and/or abandonment. These behaviours mask pain and disconnection; they are learnt coping mechanisms. Ultimately it is these behaviours that can cause isolation, loneliness and disconnection within yourself, your relationships and with the world. The cycle is formed and then repeated, round and round and round.

Therapy is about changing the story you tell yourself, and how you interact with yourself, so you give yourself understanding, compassion and nurturing.

So, question time: –

Are you one of the 45%?

Is this pattern familiar?

Do you want to break your patterns and re-learn?

Do you want to change?

If so please contact me.

Get in touch

If you would like to enquire about a weekly appointment, please fill in your details here and click 'send message'.

Alternatively, you can call, text or WhatsApp 07941 305511.

If I am not available, please leave a message and I will get back to you as soon as I am able.

Please know that my email account and voicemail are password protected and only accessible by me.

Note: If your telephone number is unfamiliar to me, and you do not leave a message, I will not call you back as I am unaware of your individual situation.

I work in Private Practice Monday – Thursday and I will get back to you within these times.

A quote for reflection....

"When you carry around anger, resentment, guilt or shame, it hurts your own happiness, health and your relationship with yourself."

Kate, Relationship Counselling Online

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